March 7, 2013

sometimes you have to cry

(I suppose I should give a disclaimer for profanity in this video, but it's Dane Cook, so that should be disclaimer enough.)

Yesterday was one of those days. I woke up early (5 a.m.!) after having a bad dream that made me sad. Unable to fall back asleep and feeling pretty pitiful, I curled up on my couch reading celebrity gossip with the kittens.

Why I thought reading about the crazy shenanigans celebrities have been in lately was a good idea (Seriously, Biebs, what were you and Jaden thinking trying to get into clubs? That kid is 14.), I don't know, but it kept me from crying. It wasn't until I stumbled upon something about Anne Hathaway that I had the first couple of tears slip out. I haven't even seen "Les Miserables," yet, but knowing the music as well as I do, I saw her name, I thought of I "Dreamed a Dream," and I suddenly had the sniffles.

After getting that out, I cleaned up myself and decided to dress for success. I did my hair, wore my favorite headband, picked out my new blue dress and paired it with my new brown boots (you can see how sad my old ones looked here). I was looking pretty good, still not feeling 100 percent, but I went to work.

My resolve to have a great day was over about an hour into my day. A series of technological issues, first with the eNewsletter I had to send out followed by a bunch of problems with our website's content manager, and I had enough. One of my wonderful co-workers was in the room with me when the final straw broke the camel of back that was my restraint. I said, "I'm going to need a few minutes," and she gave me room to close my office door and throw down a little cry.

Now, this is the first time I've cried at my new job (a fact I'd just been bragging about the day before at lunch with a friend). But within a minute of starting the tears, I realized I was being silly. Even as I let out a few more dry sobs, I went about fixing the problem, realizing it was not as terrible as it could have been.

By the time I opened the door, my problem was fixed. My co-worker turned up a couple of minutes later asking if there was anything she could do to help, and at that moment my day changed. I realized I am fortunate to have people like her in my life -- people willing to help me. At that moment, I decided my day of tears was over, and my day would get better.

And it did. I had a business lunch that went well, followed by a surprise visit from my little sister. She knew I had a rough morning, and she stopped by to study in my office for a couple of hours, bringing my favorite snacks with her. I received a couple of wonderful emails from a friend, spent time with another good one at a meeting after work. By the time I made it home for the night, I was in completely different spirits.

This shows me a few lessons. First, sometimes you cannot control every outcome -- whether it's the formatting on an email or how a scene you're working on progresses. Second, sometimes you have to step away from a problem for a moment to look at it with fresh eyes to fix it. Third, it's important to surround yourself with good people, because, fourth, they are willing to help you when you need them.

And last, even if it's possible to find a resolution to an issue, sometimes -- like Dane Cook said in that profanity-filled video above -- we're all going to cry. So just do it, get it over with and move on with your life.

Also, it never hurts to have an arsenal of funny videos or pictures of cats to look at when you're feeling blue. That Dane Cook video is one of my old favorites to go to, but I'll leave you with one of my new favorite blog series that has me lol-ing. This is UNL Chancellor Harvey Perlman. He's my boss' boss' boss' boss (or something like that), and a super funny guy, who introduced a new web series this week. I watched these clips yesterday and got my laughter back.

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  1. I'm glad your day turned around for you! I need to remember that I DO have people in my life (since you know the craziness I'm dealing with at an internship two hours away and not knowing what the F is going to happen). It's hard when they're all in different cities for the most part. But they're there. :) Sending a post-cry virtual hug to my virtual bestie!

  2. Aw, I'm sorry to hear that you were so blue yesterday. To quote the token straight guy from The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, "Some days, you just shouldn't get out of bed." Especially if the bed in question has kittens in it. :-) Hope today is as happy as yesterday was sad!