August 14, 2014

fightin' words can go fly a kite

This one is pretty basic: Today I'd like to tell people who feel the need to make insensitive, unsolicited commentary, inquiries or advisories on other people's lives to go fly a kite.

We're all guilty of doing this at one point in time or another. Or at least I have been. But that doesn't mean you, me and we can't still make more of an effort to be better to each other.

I've seen a lot of lists pop up lately. "Eleven things not to say to a mother." "Twenty-seven things not to say to someone who's gaining weight." "Fifty-three things not to say around your a-hole co-worker who just won't leave you the eff alone." Some of these posts have been funny. Some have been insightful. Some have been a bit harsh. But they've all made me a little uncomfortable. At their heart these lists and posts are a reaction to someone or several people making hurtful or insensitive statements to or about another person.

Words, even spoken with the best of intentions, can hurt. So be conscientious of how you use them. You might think you're helping. You might think you're being sensitive. But whether or not the person is a stranger or your best friend, do you really fully comprehend what he or she is experiencing? Is what you're going to say or ask something they truly need to hear or just what you think they need to hear?

I'm all for conversation. But when we have these conversations, we owe it to our peers and ourselves to approach them in a respectful manner. Or not to talk about them if it serves no purpose other than to cause pain.

Let's be kind. Let's be courteous. Let's treat our neighbors with a little more love and a lot less judgment.

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  1. *slow clap* Yes, ma'am. Thank you. Now, for my list of ten things you should never say to someone who hate lists telling them what they can and cannot say...

  2. Be kind. I couldn't agree more!