June 30, 2015

the real marrying types with francine lasala

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Francine Lasala shares how an imperfect dating past prepared her for her perfect match. 


Laura asked me to write a wedding story, and I really wanted to write a wedding story, but when I sat down to write this post, I could not remember a single detail from my wedding day. Not a one. Reasons for this?

  1. It didn’t happen? No, I’m sure it happened. I’ve seen the pictures. I paid the bills!
  2. I am old? Maybe. Except that old people can usually remember in vivid detail things that happened a decade or two ago. It’s the “five minutes ago” that gets tricky. 
  3. It wasn’t a good day? No, it was the best day. If I can’t remember a moment about it, the amazing feeling I carried away from it stays with me always. That day I became the luckiest girl in the world. 

Pretty gross, huh? Yeah, I know. But hear me out.

I was never lucky at love. Willing? Yes! Eager? You bet! But lucky? Yeah, not so much. In hindsight, this turned out to be a good thing - for a few reasons.

For one, I have tons of material for writing characters who aren’t so lucky, or, let’s be honest, smart, at love, and lots of luscious anecdotes to weave into narratives that, of course have to be fiction! Because how could they possibly be true...? Don’t believe me that an ex once “proposed” we get married at Katz’s Deli like David and Amy in Rita Hayworth’s Shoes? Let’s just say these things happen - and things like this happened to me. All the time.

That’s okay. Having endured so much of this not-so-good love has helped me build more emotional depth into my writing. My characters’ emotions are authentic, as they have at one time or another been deeply felt by the person who tortures these characters with said emotions. Having experienced the “dark underbelly” of romantic love has also been helping me develop some pretty cool material a bit edgier than what you might usually expect from me. (It’s coming - wait and see!)

More importantly, though, without having put up with all of this nonsense from ill-suited suitors, I may not have recognized my husband for the prince that he was when I met him. Actually, at first I didn’t. He was not at all like the others. He treated me like he didn’t have an agenda for me, except to hang out with me. And because he was so different, I thought, “This is no boyfriend. This is a good friend!”

Well, I was both wrong and right about that. Within two years of our first date, we said our “I dos” - not at a dive deli meat counter but at the main altar of St. Patrick’s Cathedral. On Valentine’s Day. On a day that was fifty-five degrees in the dead of a frigid February.


Eleven and a half years later, I’m still happy just hanging out with my best friend. I know I couldn’t be luckier. And I don’t need pictures to remember that - he helps me remember every day.


Thank you for following along with The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word. 
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About Francine
FRANCINE LASALA is the author of novels Rita Hayworth’s Shoes and The Girl, The Gold Tooth & Everything. She has written nonfiction on every topic imaginable, from circus freaks to sex, and edited bestselling authors of all genres. She is now actively taking on clients for manuscript evaluations, editing services, copywriting (covers, blurbs, taglines, queries), and more. The publisher and co-editor of A Kind of Mad Courage, she has also contributed to short story collections, including Merry Chick Lit. The creator of The “Joy Jar” Project, and co-creator of BookBuzz, she lives with her husband and two daughters in New York.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


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June 29, 2015

the real marrying types with danielle miller

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Danielle Miller shares memories of meeting her husband, the proposal, and their wedding.

I’m so honored to be part of Laura’s The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word. I never pass up an opportunity to tell my love story and today I want to tell you about how I met my husband and how wonderful our wedding turned out.  So here it goes…

Kyle and I met on the fateful night of March 5, 2011 at (the now defunct) Dillon’s Irish Pub located on the infamous corner of Hollywood and Vine in Hollywood. I was there with a bachelorette party, while Kyle was there as part of his birthday festivities. He always tells me that I was the best birthday present he ever received.

Kyle caught my eye as I was participating in a bachelorette party scavenger hunt. As he passed by, I asked if he was single and replied to his positive response with the rather forward query of “Wanna buy me a shot?” He obliged, and we proceeded to the bar to order a suggestively titled shot whose name doesn’t bear repeating here.

We immediately hit it off and Kyle helped me to complete the remaining tasks on the scavenger hunt. I wound up winning (in more ways than one). From that day on we spent as much time together and talked on the phone almost every night. Then on July 4, 2011, Kyle told me he loved me for the first time and of course I loved him too.

I had never met anyone like Kyle and never thought I could find someone so perfect for me. He makes me laugh and smile everyday. We always have fun together no matter where we are.  I can always count on him to be there for me and I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

Then in April 2014, Kyle and I spent a long weekend with friends in Yosemite National Park. Highlights of the weekend included hiking up to Vernal Falls, biking through Yosemite Valley, and making s’mores. It was the perfect weekend. But, the biggest highlight of our trip was yet to come…

As we were making our way out of the park, we stopped at Tunnel View, the scenic overlook that’s home to one of the most spectacular views of the entire Yosemite Valley. I had wanted to stop there to recreate the photo we took together there 3 years before (during the first major road trip we had ever taken together). Little did I know that Kyle would use the occasion to propose to me.

After I thought we were finished taking our photos, I started to walk away, but Kyle asked me to sit back down on the stone wall at the edge of the overlook. I initially thought he just wanted to take some more photos together, but then he told me that I had “waited long enough” while reaching into his coat pocket.



Then he got down on one knee and opened up a little black jewelry box. I immediately started crying tears of joy. Kyle wound up so focused on my reaction that he forgot to pop the question!

“You have to ask me,” I urged. So with an assist from his better half, he finally asked, “Will you marry me?” Of course, my answer was an emphatic yes accompanied by many more happy tears.

Shortly after, Kyle told me what he had been planning to say in the proposal, before getting so lost in the moment that he was unable to articulate it…

“The most beautiful girl in the world deserves to be proposed to at the most beautiful place in the world.”

I should point out that we have a large framed photo of that view from Tunnel View hanging in our living room. He told me that he wanted me to be reminded of the moment we got engaged every time I saw that photo from now on.

I couldn’t have asked for a more romantic proposal. He did it in a place we both love and will continue to visit in the years to come.


Fast forward to April 25, 2015, the day of our wedding, and I’m putting on a wedding dress I know he will love. My friend is touching up my makeup and I’m trying to make sure I don’t sweat too much. There wasn’t a first look, but Kyle and I decided to write each other a note accompanied by a cocktail we chose for each other. There were so many butterflies flying around my stomach that I could barely finish my Midori Sour Kyle sent over to me.

As the minutes passed in the bridal prep room, I started thinking about my mother. She passed away in 2008, and I wished she could have been there to see me in my dress and see me marry the man I love. Even though she couldn’t physically be at my wedding, I know she was there in spirit and I made sure she had a presence in the prep room by placing a photograph of both of us in there (see photo below).


When it was time for the ceremony, surprisingly I wasn’t thinking about whether the flowers looked right or if the decorations were where they should be. The only thing I was thinking about was getting to see Kyle waiting for me at the end of the aisle and I couldn’t wait to see his face when he saw me round the corner.

Our ceremony was short and sweet. It was the perfect length for us since the main focus was that we get to the “party” portion of the wedding day. Kyle and I wanted the day to be more about drinking and dancing than about the formalities of a traditional wedding. Our photographs can attest to the amount of time that was spent on the dance floor. We did keep to a few traditional aspects by having close friends and family members give toasts and visiting each table throughout the evening, but after that we just wanted to party.

I absolutely loved our wedding. I got to marry the man I love and have an amazing night celebrating with those close to us. What more could a girl ask for?

Thank you again to Laura for allowing me to tell my story. Now to share some of my favorite engagement and wedding photos.








We'll be back with the final installment of The Real Marrying Types of CTW tomorrow with a new story from Francine Lasala.


About Danielle
Danielle is a lover of all things books!  She writes book reviews and anything related to books on her blog Stories Unfolded.  She started her blog in March 2012 because she loves writing, telling stories, and helping share the stories of others.

She’s currently living in California with her husband and received her Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees from Woodbury University. She plays softball 2-3 times per week and tries to spend as much time with her family as she can. Her day job (something all aspiring authors have) is working in Motorsports & Sports commercial insurance.

She also holds the Social Media Chair position for the Women’s National Book Association – Los Angeles Chapter and for the last four years has been working on a few books of her own.


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When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 26, 2015

the real marrying types with hilary grossman

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Hilary Grossman shares one of her earliest wedding memories and one from years later that inspired her own nuptials. 

“Can I scream?”  I asked my mother.

She looked at me like I had lost my mind. “Sure,” she said with a shrug

I don’t think she really thought I would do it. But I did. I screamed at the top of my lungs. LOUD!

My father came running into the kitchen. “What’s wrong? Why are you screaming?”

“I can’t stand it.” I replied. “I’m too excited!”

I waited almost a year for this day, and it was finally here. My cousin Robin’s wedding. And while I adored her future husband I wasn’t excited about her starting a new chapter of her life with the man that she loved. All I cared about was the fact I was going to be her junior bridesmaid!

Hey. Don’t judge. I was only ten years old.

From the moment she asked me if I would participate in her wedding, I could think of nothing else. You would think I was the bride the way I carried on. I practiced walking down the aisle every day, for months.  I loved my pink dress (which now makes me shudder) and I couldn’t wait to wear it. Finally the day was here.

Her wedding was everything I dreamt of and more. I had the time of my life. Posing for pictures, walking down the aisle (although I goofed the procession up) and dancing with my parents (my poor parents only shared one dance together – I was that dominating).


Seven years later, while in high school, I found myself catering. I spent every weekend working into the wee hours of the mornings serving drinks at weddings. At first I loved it. Happy memories from my cousin’s wedding bombarded me. I was thrilled to be a small part in all these brides’ special days. I’d prepare for work anxious to see the bride’s dress, what the wedding party would wear, and all the intricate details of the event.

But after months of “going” to weddings, sometimes three of them in a weekend, the novelty wore off.  I quickly realized that while each one was slightly different, basically every one of them was the same. It was sad. These ladies spent so much time and effort planning their big day, and it was no different then the wedding that took place five hours before.

I also spent a lot of time watching the newly married couple. They spent the entire time working the room, worrying about details, grinning at strangers, and hugging people they haven’t seen in twenty years. They never seemed to enjoy the food, music, or more importantly each other. I always wondered if they even remembered the night, or just the stress of the planning.

Even though I was only seventeen years old, I realized if I ever got married, I wouldn’t want a wedding. To me, the marriage is what’s important, the wedding is just window dressing.

I did my teenage-self proud. Many years later, when I did tie the knot, my fiancé and I scurried off to Aruba. We had a planned elopement on the beach, at sunset.  It was beyond romantic and I remember every second of the day.

We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" on Monday with a new story from Danielle Miller.


About Hilary
Hi! I am Hilary!

I dated a guy so commitment-phobic that I was able to write a book about our relationship! I am also the CFO of a beverage alcohol importer and live on Long Island.

Here are some random facts about me....
* I am a klutz... I walk into walls and fall off my shoes (flats too - not only the skyscraper heels)
* I have an unhealthy addiction to denim... Oh, and add shoes to my addiction list while you are at it please...
* I am the worst singer imaginable. When I was a waitress, I would get tipped extra not to sing happy birthday!
* I am a righty, but I can also write with my left hand. When I was little, I also taught myself how to write with my foot.
* I used to be a very shy and quiet girl....But, wow, did that ever change
* I love to laugh, and find humor in the every day
* My life long dream was to write a book. Now my dream is a reality. I hope you like it!

XOXO,
Hilary


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 25, 2015

the real marrying types with isabella louise anderson

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Isabella Louise Anderson shares three of her favorite moments from the day of her nuptials. 

While I was one who always wanted to be a bride (as a child, I was even one for Halloween), a beautiful bauble on my finger made me a fiancé, but the part I was looking forward to the most was being a wife. This past December, my husband and I celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary, and I couldn’t be more blessed with the daily chores of laundry and dishes, and everything else that married women can relate to (Don’t you just love when you’re doing the laundry and you find your husband’s socks all bunched up, just to waste several seconds stretching them out, so they can be washed?!).

My Three Favorite Moments on My Wedding Day

On June 12, 2009, my boyfriend of six years proposed, and I more than happily accepted. My mom and I started planning right away, While there were a few bumps (aren’t there always?) it was all worth it when my dad walked me down the aisle, six months later on December 12, (yes, planning a wedding in exactly six months is possible… Thanks for all your help, Mom).

So many say that their wedding day was the happiest day of their lives, and while that’s true for me, too, there are three moments on my wedding day that I will never forget.

WAKING UP!
My cat, Thorndike, was my alarm clock that morning. Sneezing on not just my face, but also my cousin’s, who was my maid of honor.  I quickly remembered it was my wedding day… MY WEDDING DAY! Nerves, excitement, and the constant thought that something would go wrong took over, but thanks to my M.O.H., she calmed my nerves, and I was much better (thanks, Sis)! I took my time showering, putting on my bride loungewear, and soon after my dad and uncle came to pick us up. It was time to go to the Rosewood Crescent Hotel to get ready to get ready! After all the wedding started at 4 so there was no time to waste!

LOVE NOTES!
Over the six years that my husband and I have been together, there have been more cards and letters written than I can count (which might explain why I’m an author, and not an accountant). Often times on our anniversaries we end up giving each other the same cards and/or gifts—I know, cute, huh?! Anyway, as my M.O.H., mom, and other girls, and I had our hair and make-up being applied in the dressing room there was a knock at the door. It turned out to be a delivery for me from my husband-to-be. My heart melted and kept on as I collected eight of the sweetest notes I’ve ever received from him. After the last note, I wasn’t nervous anymore, but rather more ready than ever to marry my man!

CAKE FAIL!
After our officiant proclaimed us husband and wife, we were whisked away for a bit to enjoy a glass of champagne along with a few appetizers while the guests made their way to the reception that was held in one of the hotel’s ballrooms. Spending a few short moments with my husband (I still love that word) was really special, as we realized the hard part was over, and that the fun part was just beginning.

Finally, it was time to make our grand entrance as Mr. and Mrs. Anderson, but just as we stepped off the elevator, we were stopped by the wedding coordinator (the original one we started working with quit and was replaced my a snooty woman, who had to have things her way—even what time my lox and bagels were served, stating that “the contract says you want it at 10 not 9:30”—yeah, my mom almost lost it at that point, saying to give her daughter what she wants). Anyway, after the woman congratulated us on our nuptials, she told us that while the cakes were being delivered, mine took a tumble, but not to worry, “because they’ve replaced it with a Styrofoam lookalike, so when you cut the cake, it will be from the groom’s cake.” While I was really disappointed, not only by the cake company but at the woman who could’ve at least told us this earlier on in the day (I’m sure there could’ve been a much better solution. My mom is a very resourceful woman, and, on top of that, my mother-in-law is in the cake business). I was really looking forward to seeing the cake I designed (a simple white cake, with a deep purple ribbon at the bottom of each tier), but all I wanted at that moment was to have my first dance with my hubby, the father/daughter dance, and start being a wife.

Moving forward, after the dances, celebrating with friends, and having a great time, it was cake time. I was highly disappointed when I saw that my “stage” cake was chocolate with pink flowers on it. Since I don’t like pink, it was a major fail, so I made sure to tell anyone that said how pretty it was the real story.

In the end, I’m pleased to say this was the only major snag in the wedding, and for that, I’m thankful!


We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Hilary Grossman.


About Isabella
Isabella grew up with a book in her hand, and to this day nothing has changed. She is a member of the Romance Writers of America and has been featured on several blogs. While Isabella doesn’t blog a lot, she focuses her time on featuring other writers, along with working on her next book.

She created Chick Lit Goddess to share the love of the following genres: Chick Lit, Contemporary Romance, Romance, and Romantic Comedies!  She loves featuring authors and their books.

Currently, she lives in Dallas with her husband and cat. She enjoys spicy Mexican food and drinking margaritas, and can be found spending time with family and friends, cheering on the Texas Rangers, and reading.

Isabella’s short story, Meet Me Under the Mistletoe, was featured in Simon & Fig’s Christmas anthology, Merry & Bright, in November 2013. The Right Design is her first novel.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 24, 2015

the real marrying types with chrissy wolfe

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Chrissy Wolfe (who proofread The Marrying Type!) shares her wedding story. 

I am honored that Laura asked me to participate in her blog series, The Real Marrying Types, about real-life wedding stories. So, here’s mine:

My husband proposed at the Mt. Washington overlook in Pittsburgh in April. If you’ve never been there, it is a gorgeous view of the city. After I said yes, we had a fabulous dinner, stopped at my parents’ on the way home to share the good news, and couldn’t contain ourselves since then. Then, we started discussing wedding wants and that’s where we found out we differed greatly! I wanted to elope and those destination weddings at the Sandals Resorts looked like the way to go. My husband, however, wanted the traditional wedding and reception. So, we discussed, negotiated, and compromised. The result? A two-day event, of course, with a honeymoon at a Sandals Resort! And surprisingly, every detail fell into place easily.


We got married on a Friday night that October. It was just us, our parents, our siblings, his grandparents, and my matron of honor (the only non-family member). My husband’s father was the best man. It was perfect. I remember giggling a bit during the ceremony. I remember all the pictures. I remember my husband’s smile as I walked down the aisle. I don’t remember the readings or the songs. But I remember both of us smiling the whole time. After the ceremony and pictures, we rode the trolley we rented to dinner at the same restaurant that we celebrated our engagement. It was a wonderful night.


The next day, we partied with our family and friends at the “traditional” reception. The great thing? I got to wear my wedding dress twice. My husband and I were so relaxed. We enjoyed the entire event. We greeted our guests, we danced, and we laughed a lot. It was fabulous, and I still smile thinking back to that weekend.


This October we will celebrate our tenth anniversary! It’s been an amazing ten years. I can’t wait for the next ten years. =)

We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Isabella Louise Anderson.


About Chrissy
I am a stay-at-home/work-at-home mom of three. I am the lead blogger at Every Free Chance Books and the owner/lead editor at EFC Services, LLC. I love to read any chance I get. And I love to edit while walking on my treadmill... or tredit, as I like to call it.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 23, 2015

the real marrying types with kaley stewart

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Kaley Stewart shares some of the lessons she learned during her recent turn as the MOH in her best friend's wedding.

When Laura first asked me to take part in her promo blitz for her (amazing) novel The Marrying Type (read Kaley's review here), I wasn't sure what to write about. I'm not married so I can't talk about my own wedding. I've only attended a handful of weddings and I've been a bridesmaid in three but, gulp, only one couple is still together. I've also just recently been Maid of Honour in one of my very best friend's wedding. It was a perfectly perfect day, and I still get a silly grin on my face whenever I think about it (and it's been a few weeks since the big event!). While I was lucky that my MOH duties were minimal (she and the wedding were super low-key), I still wanted to make sure the bride had the best day ever. Did I succeed? I hope so! Over the years I've learned a thing or two about what makes a good, or bad, bridesmaid. Here are some of my dos and don'ts that you can follow (or not) the next time you're asked to be a part of a wedding.

Don't say yes just because you feel obligated or guilty.
Being a bridesmaid or maid of honour is no easy task – and it's not cheap either. If you're not super close with the bride (or groom), if you are struggling financially, or if you just plain don't want to don a dress you'll never wear again, say no. Tell the bride you love her and you're honoured but at this point in your life it's not feasible for you to be in a wedding party. She'll understand if she's a true friend and will probably appreciate your honesty in the long run because it will mean you're not worrying about money or hating life at every bridal event.

Do write your speech more than a week ahead of time.
As maid of honour you're (usually but not always) required to make a speech. You think you have a ton of time to write something but the big day will sneak up on you. I may have finished my MOH speech on the Tuesday before the wedding.  While you can still pull together a great speech in a short time period (like I hope I did!), it will be better for your nerves if you have it done well in advance. Then you can practice (and yes, you should read it – out loud – several times) and that will take some of the nerves away. Plus, you'll catch the sentences that have you stumbling over your words. Bonus tip: don't forget your wine glass when you go up to make the speech like I did.

Don't make your speech all about you and the bride.
Obviously you're going to mention how you know the bride and how close the two of you are because that's why you were chosen to be MOH. But lay off on the jokes about how many guys she dated prior to the groom or how crazy spring break was that one time. Grandma doesn't need to hear that. Also, don't forget about the groom! Even if you don't know him super well, talk about how great he is for her and how happy she's been since she met him. You get bonus points if the groom is more worried about your speech than the best man's though (I had to assure the groom that I would behave...mostly.).

Do try to attend as many pre-wedding events as possible.
If you're lucky the bride will not make every shower and party mandatory for the bridal party. But you should still try to attend. It's helpful when you're in the same city as the bride-to-be, because then you don't have to add in travel costs as well as gifts and goodies. Even if you can't afford to bring a gift, your presence will be appreciated. Besides, someone needs to make that embarrassing hat made of bows! All that being said, don't feel bad when you absolutely have to decline due to scheduling conflicts or lack of money. You should not be putting yourself in debt for someone else's wedding!

Do do whatever the bride asks.
Within reason of course. Try not to get arrested! But this is her day and her vision so if she wants you to wear a pink dress that is so not flattering on you, you do it. (True story.) Your ultimate role as bridesmaid or maid of honour is to make sure the bride happy and has the wedding of her dreams.

Don't micromanage.
Sometimes the bride will give you carte blanche on certain things. Maybe that's your hair, shoes, or look for the day or maybe it's just who you can bring as your plus one. Sometimes you can anticipate what the bride will want or need, which is great. But that doesn't mean you can assume you know best or just do things without asking if the bride even wants those things done. You also should not throw a shower if the bride really doesn't want one nor should you invite strippers to the hotel room for the bachelorette if the bride has been adamant about no gyrating men at the party.

Do try to do a little something extra special.
You don't have to pull out all the stops here (unless you've got oodles of money, in which case, can we be besties?). I've had personalized bridal party tank tops made and I've purchased the Starbucks drinks for the bridal party (but the barista didn't give a hoot that they were for a wedding party...). A friend's MOH made the sweetest bouquet out of book pages from one of her favourite novels (Anne of Green Gables, since I know you'll all be curious). Pick a little something extra to give or do that will make the bride smile when she remembers her wedding day.

Do support the bride every step of the way.
This is the big one, ladies. When you accept the role of bridesmaid or maid of honour, you are agreeing to be a pillar of strength for the bride. Providing an extra pair of hands for sending invites or making crafts, an ear for listening to her concerns for the big day, or a shoulder to cry on is key. It's especially important that you're there for her emotionally if you live far apart. That was the case with the last wedding I was in as the bride and I live six hours away from one another. It's hard to be a terrific MOH and help with baking cupcakes or seating charts or anything, really, when you only see each other once during the whole engagement. But those things aren't the most important part...it's helping her through the roller coaster of emotions she'll be feeling as she approaches the big day.

At the end of the day, the wedding you're in is supposed to be a happy, awesome, fun day. You'd be surprised at how many of the silly worries evaporate after a moving ceremony and a few cocktails. So don't stress. Support the couple and have a great time at that wedding!


We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Chrissy Wolfe.


About Kaley
Kaley Stewart has had a lifetime love affair with books. Her passion for reading led to the launch of Books Etc., her popular book review blog, in November 2010. When she's not reading, she enjoys playing with her bunny, Tonks, and drinking lots of tea. You can find her on her blogTwitter, and Instagram.

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When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

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June 22, 2015

the real marrying types with jessica sodeke

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Jessica Sodeke shares how she fell in love with her love story and her wedding.

"Every love story is beautiful, but ours is my favorite."

Three years ago I hated that saying and every time I saw it vinyled across an old window or printed on cheap subway art, I rolled my eyes. So why am I writing about a memorable wedding moment? Despite my sour introduction, I'm no divorcee. In fact, my husband and I celebrated another wonderful year of marriage June 12.

I didn't love my love story. I didn't love my wedding. It was small. Six people were present. There was no beautiful white gown. I didn't have a wedding cake or a first dance and there were no toasts to be had. My dad never gave me away. And we celebrated our union over flying shrimp and smoking onions at a teppanyaki grill. It was nothing like the smorgasboard of magazine clippings I had tucked away in an old binder.

It all happened so fast. Girl gets heart broken too many times. Girl vows to never date again. Girl forgets to deactivate her online dating profile and gets a private message from "1012Sam." He's... not her type. Girl initially refuses to date him. Girl caves and meets him for one date. Comfort level is instant. Girl likes boy and the dating never stops.

That was it. And then it got complicated. We had 12 months to make one of the biggest decisions of our lives before his student visa expired and he had to return to his country. I liked the guy. He was patient, trustworthy and treated me better than any man I had ever met in my life. But did I love him? Was this a very convincing scam to get a green card? Was I settling? Was I ready?

So I did what any type-A girl would do and made a list. Pros and cons. I chuckle now and don't know if I advise this as a method for picking a husband, but it calmed my nerves and helped me decide that yes, I was going to marry this man. Hindsight? Best decision I ever made.

I don't have memories of drunken speeches or family drama on my wedding day. No one caught my bouquet and we didn't stumble over ourselves through a first dance. When I said my vows, I recited the words, but I wasn't overwhelmed with emotion. My decision was years ahead of my heart. Now, three years later, after I've had time to know that leap of faith was a good one. I've finally fallen in love.

We spent the eve of our third anniversary bucketing water out from our window well and ringing the water out of towels in the basement of our new home. While I panicked, my husband persevered. He told me to laugh it off and that stressing was bad for my health. After all, the leaking was nothing we couldn’t handle, and that, in fact, it was kind of funny.

“Funny?” I fumed? It was not funny. He was hours late for his sales job and we already had plans to leave for the weekend for a family reunion. And the bills were adding up. Waterproofing estimate. Fans. Waterproof tape. Towels. More towels.

My husband stood in an inch of water, in water soaked boxers and an undershirt, with beads of water dripping down his face and arms, ringing out towel after towel with a smile on his face. I stood there and watched him, the anxiety in my chest slowly subsiding. While I felt defeated and close to tears, he was brave and patient and encouraging. These are the moments that make my heart melt and my love grow.

Now, when I look through pictures of our wedding day, I feel the deep kind of love I yearned for June 12, 2012. The love I hoped would eventually come.


Our wedding day was not without beautiful details. It might not have been the wedding of my dreams but it was a Jessica Hartley event, and that meant it had to be fabulous! Life has a funny way of turning out exactly how it's supposed to and things simply fell into place.

I had the date picked before I even met my husband. June 12, Loving Day, the anniversary of the 1967 U.S. Supreme Court decision Loving vs. Virginia, which struck down any laws forbidding the union of interracial couples. It was a Tuesday and the already small guest list got even smaller. The biggest blow, my parents wouldn't be attending.

I was so opposed to the idea of a small wedding that I didn't even want a photographer (and I'm a photographer). My friend insisted she would take a few for free. Photographer. Check. At the time, that same friend worked in a beautiful, historic building, which once housed the Nebraska federal courthouse. Venue. Check. My brother-in-law knew a pastor who relocated to Lincoln. After approaching him about marrying us, we found out he served as a missionary in Nigeria - Sam's native country. Officiant. Check. I happened to also have a white lacy dress I wore for my high school graduation. Attire. Check. And I would incorporate peacocks because, at the time, the theme was on trend and it would serve as a nod to my deceased father, who rented a small farmhouse during my childhood where I spent summers collecting peacock feathers

I spent hours handpainting beautiful blue peacocks on my white Payless heels. I scoured craft stores and thrift shops for fabric flowers and antique brooches for my bouquet. Our wedding invitations consisted of a customized, Loving Day design that I ironed on to vintage handkerchiefs as a favor to those who came. A teal and white paisley tie ordered online would go perfectly with the suit jacket Sam borrowed from his brother. I crafted peacock feather boutonnieres for Sam and his brother, who stood in as best man. For my sister/maid of honor, I ordered a vintage folding fan in lieu of a bouquet, created a peacock and teal hair piece and had a friend make a necklace from a peacock brooch.

That morning, I headed to my sisters home where one of my photography clients coiffed my hair into a 1920s style and topped it with a fascinator. We finished up at the makeup counter of Von Maur. With my sisters borrowed pearls around my neck and a peacock brooch from my mother's costume jewelry collection pinned to my sash, I made my way into the courtroom. He'd never seen me done up like a geisha doll and the initial mood was nervous. Anxious. I introduced myself to his uncle and we posed for pictures. There was no big to do, no music to walk into, no candles lit, we simply gathered together and the ceremony began.

I decided to keep it simple because to me, it was just a day to sign the papers. Down the road, when we had all the immigration stuff squared away and money saved, we'd have my "dream wedding". To make the ceremony unique, I insisted we have a Yoruban tasting ceremony, complete with heart shaped dishes from thrift stores displayed on a peacock dish.

***

It took me about a year of marriage to realize my wedding was perfect. I will forever cherish the pictures my friend demanded I take because they captured so much more than my eyes did that day. My husband is a marvelously patient man. I'm sad I never got to wear a big white gown and I dream of the day when I can stand in front of all my friends and family to declare my deep, true, unrelenting love for my husband. My wedding simply wasn't the time and place. There was a purpose, it was meant to be, but it took a good amount of list making and conversations with friends for me to go through with it. It was fleeting and crazy, I know! It wasn't well thought out. It was careless even.  

I haven't fallen in love with his snoring and he never comes back from the store with all the "right" items. But we've accomplished a lot together. We lived apart for five months after we got married and we took the high stress of immigration head-on. As a team. We've vacationed together several times without killing one another, and we just signed a 30-year mortgage on our first home. I’ve finally realized the love I grew up believing in was simply unrealistic and that however our love story goes, it is ours, and it is, finally, my favorite one.

We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Kaley Stewart.


About the Author
My name is Jessica. I'm a full-time journalist/graphic designer with a passion and skill for photography, graphic design, interior design and crafting.


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When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 19, 2015

the real marrying types with terry mitchell

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Terry Mitchell talks about finding love and marriage for a second time with her husband.

For a time I lost faith in marriage, I lost sight of how important having that one person who accepts you for all your good and more importantly all your bad. The one you count on to accept you for all your faults and insecurities; who gives loyalty and love to you beyond all others. This was the time in my life that I became unhappy, restless and in deep need to find my individual self, I needed to find what made me happy.


This is when I got to the point of asking my husband of seven years for a divorce. This was a time in my life when I truly felt I was a lost soul. I was unsure of what I needed to be happy, having spent my whole adult life tied to raising children and taking care of my husband, I needed a selfish moment of me. This was perhaps the most important decision I have ever made as an adult and one I never considered taking lightly.

Lucky for me, my husband loved me enough to let me go with grace and always treated me with amazing respect as I worked out finding me. Which ultimately lead me back to him. Ultimately our falling apart was the one thing that allowed us the ability to come back together stronger and better than had we not taken that moment in time to step back and see things in a different way.

I share many pictures of the day my family came back together, because it was truly a day of great joy. Our children were a part of each moment in the day and having them next to us as we recommitted our lives together truly made it a moment that felt like there were only four people there, even with all our family and friends gathered near.


Today I celebrate five years since this amazing day and can't help but remind myself how very blessed I am to be lucky enough to be married to my best friend, the one person in this life I can count on without any doubt. He has shown me time and time again that I make his life better as he does mine.



We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" on Monday with a new story from Jessica Sodeke.


About Terry Mitchell
I am a book reviewer, book blogger, editorial reviewer, and book manager. Basically all things books!

Authors please contact me privately for all review requests, blog tours, author interviews, and siuch, contact me through my blog or by email. I am also looking for swag for future giveaways, contact me privately if you want to donate some!

I do it all for my love of reading and wanting to share it with others! I love reading many types of books from many genres.

My favorite genres are as follows: (Although I will give almost anything a try... I do rarely read Erotica-it is simply a personal preference.) paranormal, fantasy, sci-fi, comedy, mystery, suspense, fictional, drama, historical, crime, historical romance, dystopian, fiction, chick lit... Really just about anything that is well written.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 18, 2015

the real marrying types with samantha march

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Samantha March shares a special moment she shared with her husband during their wedding.

As I was prepping for my September 7, 2013 wedding, I was getting a lot of advice and tips from the women around me. I mean, like, a lot. But that’s a good thing! As a first-time bride, wedding plans were of course really overwhelming. I also didn’t have my mom right by my side during all the plans, as she lived (and still does) in a different state than I do. There was a lot of Skype happening during my one-year engagement.

One reoccurring tip I heard from everyone was to have a special moment sometime during our wedding day, just me and my husband. They said how busy and fast the entire day and night would go, and because so many people are coming to see us, we would feel the pressure to try to talk to everyone, and not necessarily talk to everyone together. So that was always in my mind – find a time for just Mitch and I to connect, to understand what we were doing and the importance of it, and to have fun with one another. I could find a time to do that, right?

I’ll be honest – I thought maybe it would be during our first dance, or while eating dinner. Maybe towards the end of the night when things were winding down. Nah. We had our moment, our special time together, but it wasn’t during those events – it was while two hundred plus guests watched us stand at the altar.

During our ceremony, as our wonderful officiant did his officiating, Mitch and I took the time to whisper "I Love You," to whisper how overwhelming this was, to whisper how wonderful we both looked to each other. At one point I remember asking, “Do you think everyone knows we’re talking to each other up here?” And he just shrugged and gave me a wink.

I don’t want to say we weren’t paying attention to what was being said, or we missed our cues to light the unity candle or say our vows, because we didn’t. I asked a lot of my friends if they could tell we spent most of the ceremony talking to each other, and only the ones in the first few rows said they thought they noticed us laugh and smile a lot. But I am so glad I have those special moments to hold on to, and when I watch my wedding video back, Mitch and I look so freaking happy, that it makes me tear up every time. Hell, I’m tearing up as I write this and remember those twenty minutes of pure happiness.

Having “our moment” during our ceremony was actually pretty magical. We weren’t rushing to get into the photo booth at our reception (killer idea, by the way), there wasn’t a line of people trying to talk to us, we weren’t figuring out how much to pay our DJ. It was just us, having our moment, as we promised each other our forever.

We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Terry Mitchell.


About Samantha
Samantha March is an author, editor, publisher, blogger, and all around book lover. She runs the popular book/women’s lifestyle blog ChickLitPlus, which keeps her bookshelf stocked with the latest reads and up to date on all things health, fitness, fashion, and celebrity related. In 2011 she launched her independent publishing company Marching Ink and has three published novels – Destined to Fail, The Green Ticket and A Questionable Friendship. When she isn’t reading, writing, or blogging, you can find her cheering for the Green Bay Packers. Samantha lives in Iowa with her husband and Vizsla puppy.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

Available on AmazonBarnes & NobleKoboiBooks, and Audible.


*** Let's keep in touch! You can find out what's going on in my world between blog posts by following my daily adventures on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram. You can subscribe to my monthly newsletter here. You can also find out more about my books by visiting my website, www.laurachapmanbooks.com. Whew. ***

June 17, 2015

the real marrying types with glynis astie

When Elliot Lynch learns her family’s wedding planning business is in danger of bankruptcy, she’s willing to whatever it takes to save it—even participate in “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show that takes viewers behind the scenes of wedding drama. Elliot’s reality show adventures—which include run-ins with a dramatic bridesmaid, rival wedding planner, and the one who got away—are told in my novel, The Marrying Type. While Elliot’s wedding stories are fiction, there are plenty of wonderful real stories out there. In The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, real women are sharing their real wedding stories. 

In today’s new The Real Marrying Types of Change the Word, Glynis Astie shares how she married the man of her dreams not once but twice.

When I was asked by the lovely Laura Chapman to write about one of my real-life wedding memories, I jumped for joy. I actually jumped twice, because I had two weddings–to the same man–thereby giving me two memories to share. (Thank your lucky stars that we didn’t have the third one. This post would have been soooo much longer!)

My wonderful, charming, handsome, FRENCH husband, Sébastien, and I had a rather short courtship, finding ourselves engaged after five weeks of knowing each other. We had planned on a much longer engagement than, um, five months. (I still wince at this statement and it’s been nearly fourteen years…) However, when my then fiancé was laid off from his job and threatened with deportation, I did what any girl would do. Swallowed my fear and focused on the joy of the situation–like having two wedding dresses, two wedding cakes, two wedding rings, you get the point. It was going to be awesome!

We were living in California at the time, but elected to fly back east so my family and friends would be able to witness our wedding adventure (because planning a wedding in less than a week can’t really be categorized as anything less!), but the expedited nature of our nuptials didn’t allow for Sébastien’s family to attend. I felt a massive sense of guilt about marrying him without sharing anything other than a brief phone conversation with his parents. In my mind, I was robbing them of a sacred experience: the wedding of their only child. After all, the next wedding would just be for show.

Pushing my feelings aside, I did my best to focus on how much I loved my groom rather than the swirling pregnancy/green card/ you-name-it rumors resulting from our impromptu nuptials. The next few days flew by and I suddenly found myself at the threshold of the most hideous room I had ever seen, preparing to walk down that fateful aisle. Flanked on each side by my parents, I did my best not to gag at the wood paneling, plentiful pilgrim portraits and stained gold carpeting. In that moment, my world came crashing down around me. Everything was happening so quickly and I wondered if we were crazy to think such a hasty marriage could actually work.

With my heart racing, I looked up to find Sébastien gazing at me. I didn’t see my fear reflected in his eyes. I didn’t see confusion, anxiety or even an ounce of uncertainty. All I saw was the depth of his love for me. After beaming for all I was worth, I swiftly kicked my doubts to curb and sashayed down the aisle with glee. Best. Day. Ever.


The memory from our second wedding is a true gem. I can laugh about it now, but at the time I thought I would have to be committed to an insane asylum. The morning of my long-awaited, fairy tale-esque wedding (which was eight months after the civil ceremony), I discovered that my perfect wedding dress–you know, the one that makes you feel like the princess you always wanted to be–was missing. MISSING! My heart just stopped for a second. Perhaps it’s not funny quite yet.

My mother had been given the task of transporting my dress to the hotel, given that Sébastien and I had a minivan full of his relatives we were doing our best not to lose. She gave this prized possession to the hotel manager, eliciting the promise that the dress would be delivered to the bridal suite without delay. Imagine my surprise when I woke the next morning and found all four closets in our room devoid of my gorgeous gown?! I’m pretty sure I woke every single guest in the hotel with my pained screams.

In my deranged state, I hypothesized since I was already married (and therefore didn’t have to have the holy-crap-I’m-getting-married freak out), the universe HAD to give me another reason to break down on this auspicious occasion. What can I say? I had finally lost it. I was convinced I had angered the wedding gods by marrying my husband without meeting his family until just two days before our SECOND wedding.

Three extremely long hours later, the dress turned up and we got on with the show. I wish I could tell you things ran smoothly from there. Multiple power outages led to my walking down four flights of steep metal stairs in a rather poofy wedding dress, lit by nothing but glow sticks AND my letting out a stream of profanity which made several wedding guests blush when my grand entrance was paused midway due to the sudden absence of music. The ample supply of alcohol helped to eradicate those memories–if only for the evening. Either way, it was an unforgettable evening!


Sébastien and I had planned to have a third wedding in his hometown of Le Caylar, France, but it simply wasn’t in the cards. Although I was never able to experience it firsthand, I did write my version of what could have happened in French Toast, the second book in my French Twist series. It was quite the event, if I do say so myself!

We'll be back with more "The Real Marrying Types of CTW" tomorrow with a new story from Samantha March.


About Glynis
Glynis never expected in her wildest dreams to be a writer. After thirteen years in the Human Resources Industry, she decided to stay at home with her two amazing sons. Ever in search of a project, she was inspired to write the story of how she met and married her wonderfully romantic French husband, Sebastien, in six short months. The end result became her first novel, French Twist. As this was just the beginning of their epic love story, Glynis continued to chronicle their adventures in the sequel, French Toast, and the final installment in the series, French Fry.

When Glynis is not writing, she is trying to keep the peace amongst the three men and two cats in her life, finding missing body parts (Lego pieces are small!), supervising a myriad of homework assignments and keeping a tenuous hold on her sanity by consuming whatever chocolate is in the vicinity.


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About The Marrying Type
When Elliot Lynch's family business is on the brink of bankruptcy, Elliot will do whatever it takes to save the family business. When asked to appear on “The Marrying Type,” a reality TV show about the people behind the scenes as couples exchange I dos, she says yes to the invasion of privacy (and the hefty paycheck that comes with it). With a camera crew capturing every detail of her life, Elliot faces her most challenging contract yet: planning a wedding where her ex is involved in every part of the process. Forced to confront her past, Elliot must live out her troubled present on national TV if she has any hope of saving her future.

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