By Kasey Ferris
Huffington Post and The Good Men Project contributor
I love the holidays.
I’m not one of those people who walks around bah-humbugging Christmas carols, nor the person who calls snow, “That dirty four-letter word.” (I’m really good at dirty four-letter words, you guys – I’ve got much better options for you.)
I love the smell of cookies baking, I love Bing Crosby singing "White Christmas," I love sitting on the couch with a glass of wine and admiring our tree all lit up after the kids go to bed.
Most importantly, I love the outpouring of love and kindness this time of year because, at the end of the day, that’s what this season is supposed to be about. It’s important to me that my kiddos see this love and kindness. It’s important to me that they get the message that Christmas isn’t about the presents under the tree.
So this year I’ve decided to start a new holiday tradition with my family. Starting on November 30, we’re spending 25 days spreading random acts of kindness.
When I came to my kids with this idea, I was frank. We talked about the terrible things going on in the world. We talked about how, while we’re on a strict budget, we are so incredibly blessed to have what we do – a home to come to at the end of the day, food in our bellies, warm blankets on our beds. We’re together, safe, happy, healthy...and these are things that many people in the world unfortunately do not have this holiday season. So instead of going all-out with presents we don’t necessarily need, we’ve decided to put some time, money, and energy into spreading kindness in our own corner of the world.
The idea caught fire around my kitchen table and, before the evening was over, the kids and I had come up with all 25 acts we’d like to perform. Before the evening was over, they were already getting started on some of their ideas. Before the evening was over, they were individually naming many of the things they’re grateful for, saying nice things to each other, and coming up with even more ways to spread joy.
Because that’s the thing about kindness – the more you give, the more it grows.
I’m excited to start this tradition with my kids, and I’m ready for it to restore my own faith in humanity. I’m excited, too, to spend the season doing something meaningful with my children in lieu of being grumpy about shipping costs and winter storms. Sometimes the most rewarding things in life are the things we do for others. Sometimes, those things we do for others end up helping us more than we could’ve ever imagined.
About the Author
Kasey Ferris is a freelance writer currently querying her first novel, One Step Forward, and "writing" (read: eating Oreos, downing coffee, and re-evaluating her life's choices) her second. She's a mother of five and can frequently be found writing about her crazy adventures. She is a regular contributor at Huffington Post and The Good Men Project. You can catch her on facebook.com/KaseyFerrisWrites.
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